DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE

  DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE

     


DIFFICULT PEOPLE: they're those people you can't stand and who don't do what you want them to do or what you want to do ---- and you don't know what to do about them!




RECOGNIZED THE UNWANTED BEHAVIOUR:

The tank: Pushy and ruthless , loud and force-full, or with the quiet intensity and surgical precision of a laser ,the tank assumes that the end justifies the means. if you are in the way: you'll be eliminated.
The sniper: This covert operator resents you for some reason. Instead of getting mad, he or she gets even by identifying your weaknesses and using them against you , through sabotage , gossip and putdowns.
The grenade: This person explodes in tantrums that seem disproportionate to the present circumstances, sending others ducking for cover and wondering what it's all about.
The Know-It-All: This person knows 98% of everything. (Just ask!) Know-It-Alls will tell you what they know-for hours at a time! but won't take a moment to listen to your "clearly inferior ideas."
The Think-They-Know-It-All: Although these people don't know that much, they don't let that get in the way. If you don't know much about what they're talking about, they may mislead you into trouble or throw a project off track.
The Yes Person: Quick to agree, slow to deliver, the yes Person leaves a trail of unfulfilled commitments and broken promises. Although they please no one, Yes People over-commit to please.
The Maybe Person: When faced with a crucial decision, the Maybe Person keeps putting it off until it's too late. Finally, there comes a point when the decision makes itself. Then it's nobody's default but his or her own.
The Nothing Person: You can't know what's going on because the Nothing Person tells you nothing- no feedback, verbal or nonverbal.
The No Person: This person says, "Every silver cloud has a dark lining" and "I'm not being negative, I'm being realistic." Doleful and discouraging, the No Person drives others to despair.
The Whiner: These people wallow in their woe, whine incessantly, and drag others down with the weight of their generalizations that nothing is right, everything is wrong, and it's always going to be that way unless you do something.



 

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  1. AnonymousJune 9, 2024 at 12:05 PM

    Topic is so interesting well written 👍

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