HOW TO BRING OUT THE BEST IN MAYBE PERSON

 BRING OUT THE BEST IN MAYBE PERSON:


Decisive people know that every decision has a downside and an upside and are able to weigh these possibilities as they make the best decision possible. Maybe People, by contrast, are unable to make decisions, especially when the consequences of their decisions could affect other people in a way that might lose them approval. So they put off the difficult decision, hoping that a better choice will come up. Unfortunately, with most decisions there comes a point when it's too late to choose the decision just happens.

Maybe People have plenty of reasons for not get- ting help; they don't want to bother or upset anyone and they don't want to be the cause of anything going wrong. Your goal when dealing with a Maybe Person is to give him or her a strategy for making decisions and the motivation to use it. Here are five steps to bring out the best in your Maybe Person

Establish a comfort zone. When you're dealing with people in the get along quadrant, your best bet is to develop a comfort zone around the decision- making process. Take your time. Reassure the Maybe Person that you believe relationships are improved by open communication

Surface conflicts and clarify options. Patiently explore, from the Maybe Person's point of view, all of the options and obstacles involved in the deci sion. Listen for words of hesitation like "probably," "that could be," and "I think so" as signals to explore more deeply. If the person is worried about how you will feel should he or she decide some thing, provide reassurance that you will be fine and it won't adversely affect your relationship.

Use a decision-making process. If you have a process that works well for you, teach it to your problem person. It could be as simple as listing with him or her all the pluses and minuses of each of the possibilities. Seeing these in a concrete form may make the strongest choice more obvious.

Reassure and follow through. Once the decision has been made, reassure the Maybe Person that there are no perfect decisions and that his or herdecision is a good one. Then stay in touch until the decision is implemented.

Strengthen the relationship. Take a few moments from time to time to listen to the Maybe Derson's concerns and help him or her learn the decision- making process whenever the opportunity arises. With patient investment, the Maybe Person may become one of your most dependable decision makers.

"In a moment of decision, the Maybe Person procrastinates in the hope that a better choice will present itself. Sadly, with most decisions, there comes a point when it is too little, too late, and the decision makes itself."



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