"GET IT DONE" INTENSION TO APPROACH DIFFICULT PEOPLE

 UNDERSTAND THE FIRST INTENT 

 

GET IT DONE:

Have you ever needed to get something done, finished, and behind you? When you need to get it done, you focus on the task at hand. And when you really need to get it done, you speed things up. focus on action, and assert yourself. You may even become careless and aggressive, leaping before you look or speaking without thinking. The people around you become peripheral. When this attempt to get things done is frustrated, it can distort people's perceptions of a given situation. Suddenly, others appear to be wasting time, going off on tangents, or just plain taking too long. The intent increases in intensity and the subsequent behavior becomes more controlling.

The Tank. On a mission to get things done, the Tank is unable to slow down and may push you around or run right over you in the process. The Tank has no inhibitions about ripping you apart personally, yet it's nothing personal: you just happened to get in the way. In an effort to control the process and accomplish the mission, Tank behavior ranges from mild pushiness to outright aggression.

The Sniper. When things aren't getting done to his or her satisfaction, the Sniper attempts to control you through embarrassment and humiliation. Most people live in fear of public embarrassment fact that Snipers use to their advantage, by making loaded statements and sarcastic comments at times when you are most vulnerable.

The Know-It-All. The Know-It-All controls people and events by dominating the conversation with lengthy, imperious arguments and eliminates opposition by finding flaws and weaknesses to discredit other points of view. Because Know-It-Alls are actually knowledgeable and competent, most people are quickly worn down by their strategy, and finally just give up.

Recognize that the intent to get it done can lead to controlling behaviors: These can express themselves as the bullying of the Tank, the lethal comments of the Sniper, or the dominating lectures of the Know- It-All. But what they all have in common is they seek to take charge of you and the situation.

"If you need to get it done, you focus on the task at hand. Any awareness of people is peripheral or unnecessary to accomplishing the task. ... You tend to speed up ..., to act ..., to assert ....You may even become careless and aggressive."




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